For generations, siblings have been in constant competition. From the love their parents feel for them, to material goods that their parents purchase them...there has always been the aspect of the game within the relationship. Last week I overheard a conversation while sitting in a deli that got me thinking. I heard a mother speaking about her two children, and she was the one causing the need for competition. One would think a parent would want her children to feel that they are both great, and both have everything going for them...yet, this mother put her children up against each other. She described that Sarah, her oldest, was smart, studious, and funny. She was valedictorian of her high school class and was essentially brilliant. I thought to myself..."wow, thats great...talking up her daughter." However, what surprised me next, was that she spoke of her youngest, Rachel, as dumb, yet beautiful. "Rachel is not the brightest...but all the boys love her."
Now...I started thinking. What if her children knew she was saying this? The competition I'm sure they already feel was just confirmed by their own mother. What if Rachel wanted to do well in school, tried extremely hard, but just didn't have the confidence because her parents deemed her as "dumb"? And what if Sarah didn't want to be look at as the "funny" sister?
In my own family, my sister and I definitely have some sort of rivalry going on. I went/ go to a better college, but I always view my sister as prettier, and more fun to be around. Now...I think about if my parents say such things about us as this mother did. Would that create more competition between us? I don't know if my sister actually feels competition, and I don't really either. But when thinking about it and narrowing it down, there are always moments between siblings that feel competitive.
Do you think sibling rivalry exists?